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You say I love you and your intention is to fully communicate your love to your partner, but somehow saying I love you just isn’t enough. Think back to how many times you have said I love you and consider how ineffective it was to your partner.
It is not because your spouse is ignoring you, or does not believe you, even though you may feel that way sometimes. In reality just saying I love you and expecting that to be the only way to communicate it is your own fault for not learning the other ways to say it. Take the responsibility and then you have the power to change it.
You can say I love you in many more ways than verbally expressing it to your partner. In fact there are seven different ways to say I love you and three different ways for a person to perceive the love you are expressing. It all has to do with how a person learned about love while growing up.
Say for example a person had a mother that picked up after them all the time. (Many men fall into this category). Well this person would consider acts of service a way to say I love you. Then they grow up thinking that doing acts of service for their partner is saying I love you.
Now, what if their partner needed another way to say I love you, like quality time, to really feel loved. These two people together can be saying I love you everyday to each other in their own way and never feeling like they are being loved.
If you are not feeling like you are receiving love from your partner then that is when you start to look outside of your marriage. Then the process starts all over again when you say I love you and then it is the infatuation, not the love that gets the emotions racing.
After a few years together the words I love you start to lose the effect and then you start to drift apart again. If you want to stop the cycle, then learn the different ways to say I love you and you will see how your love continues to grow with your partner.
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